Of course. This is a critical point that most guys miss completely. They think porn is just exaggerated; they don’t realize it’s often the polar opposite of what works in the real world.
Here is another article in that same direct, confident voice.
The Sex That Works vs. The Sex That Sells: Porn’s Biggest Lie
We’ve talked about how porn teaches you bad habits like a terrible rhythm and frantic position changes. But we need to go deeper, because the problem is more fundamental than that.
Porn isn’t just bad sex; it’s an entirely different activity that has been optimized for a viewer, not a participant. The single most important thing you can understand is this: what makes for good porn often makes for bad sex.
The industry has a simple goal: create a visually exciting product that keeps an audience watching. And what they’ve discovered is that the very techniques that are most effective for making a woman orgasm in real life are often considered “boring” to a porn audience. So they just don’t film it.
The Tyranny of the Camera Angle
Think about how a porn scene is constructed. The director is constantly asking, “What’s the best shot? How can we see everything clearly?” This leads to decisions that serve the camera at the expense of genuine pleasure.
- Unnatural Positions: Many common porn positions are chosen because they open everything up for the camera lens. They offer a great view, but they are often uncomfortable for the woman, don’t provide the right angle for G-spot or clitoral stimulation, and can’t be held for long.
- Constant Readjustment: The stopping and starting, the pulling out, the shifting of hips—it isn’t for a “better feeling.” It’s so the cameraman can move in for a close-up or switch to a different angle. It’s stage direction, not foreplay.
- Exaggerated Performances: The over-the-top moaning and dramatic facial expressions are for the viewer’s benefit. It’s a performance to signal “this is exciting,” even when the physical act itself might not be particularly stimulating for the actress at that moment.
They are creating a product for your eyes, not a blueprint for her body.
The Unsexy Secret to Her Orgasm: “Boring” Repetition
Now, let’s talk about what often works in real life. What is one of the most reliable ways to bring a woman to orgasm through intercourse?
Consistent, rhythmic, and uninterrupted pressure on the right spot.
Imagine watching that on camera. It might be five, ten, or even fifteen minutes of the same position, the same angle, with only a gradual increase in speed. The man isn’t performing for a camera; he’s locked in, focused, and listening to her body. His face might be buried in her neck. The “view” might be obscured.
For a porn audience with a short attention span, that’s “boring.” There are no new angles, no dramatic position changes. It doesn’t look like a dynamic, exciting movie. It looks like… well, it looks like two people genuinely focused on making one of them come.
This is the core of the problem. The very thing that is most effective—finding what works and doing it consistently until she gets there—is edited out of porn because it doesn’t make for good television.
So you’re left with a generation of men trying to replicate a visually interesting but physically ineffective movie, while the real-life secret to her pleasure is the “boring” stuff that was left on the cutting room floor.
Forget the camera angles. Your only job is to watch the woman you’re with. Her reactions are the only “view” that matters. Find the angle and rhythm that makes her body respond, and ignore the voice in your head telling you it needs to look like a movie. The best sex rarely does.