Of course. Here is an article written in that same direct, confident voice, tackling the lessons men learn from porn and offering a better way forward.
Stop Fucking Like a Porn Star: The Rhythm Method to Real Sex
Alright, let’s have a real talk. It’s become painfully obvious that a lot of you are getting your sex education from porn, and frankly, it’s ruining your game. You’re trying to replicate a movie scene instead of creating a real connection, and you’re wondering why she’s not getting there.
Porn is not a training manual. It’s a performance, edited for a camera, designed to show off angles, not to create genuine arousal. The frantic pace, the constant stopping, the dozen position changes—it’s all a lie.
If you want to have sex that actually feels good for both of you, you need to unlearn that nonsense. The truth is, great sex isn’t about variety; it’s about consistency and rhythm. It comes down to three simple rules.
Rule #1: Don’t Stop Thrusting
This is the cardinal sin taught by porn. The scene is always the same: a minute of thrusting, then he pulls out, they change position, the camera gets a new angle, and then they start again.
Here’s the reality: female arousal is not a light switch you can just flip on and off. It’s a fire you have to build. It’s a wave that needs momentum. Every time you stop thrusting, you’re throwing water on the embers. You’re killing the momentum. That rhythmic, consistent pressure is what builds sensation and allows her to climb towards an orgasm.
Once you’re in, find a rhythm and stay there. Let the wave build. Don’t stop until one of you is done. It’s that simple.
Rule #2: Limit Your Position Changes
The idea that you need to cycle through five different positions in ten minutes is amateur hour. Every time you switch from missionary to doggy to standing up against the wall, you hit a hard reset on the entire experience.
You lose the angle that was working. You lose the depth she was enjoying. You lose the rhythm you just spent two minutes building. It forces her body and mind to completely recalibrate, killing the flow of arousal. It shows you’re more interested in putting on a show than paying attention to what actually feels good for her.
A pro finds a position that works—one where she is clearly getting the most pleasure—and he masters it for that session. Lock it in. Maybe you use two positions, max. Focus on making that position incredible instead of giving a clumsy tour of the Kama Sutra.
Rule #3: Control Your Speed and Pace
Porn often depicts sex as either a slow, passionless affair or a frantic, jackhammering sprint to the finish. It’s rarely shown as what it should be: a controlled, deliberate build.
Changing your speed and pace constantly shows you aren’t paying attention. Good sex has an arc. It starts slow, you find the rhythm, and you gradually increase the intensity based on her feedback—her breathing, the sounds she’s making, the way her hips move against yours.
Your job is to be the conductor of this rhythm. You are in control of the pace. Speeding up and slowing down erratically just confuses her body. Find the tempo she responds to and build from there. The gradual, consistent increase in speed and pressure is what drives arousal over the edge.
Forget the highlight reel you see on screen. Real sex is about connection and momentum. Find a rhythm, lock in the position, master the pace, and focus on the woman in front of you. That’s the difference between a fumbling performance and an unforgettable experience.